We know that change is inevitable. We ask for it. And yet when it shows up, somehow we decide we're not ready for it, it doesn't look like what we think, and then we try to control how we want it to show up, when it should show up....and then if it shows up.... we sometimes fight it every step of the way.
And when we fight it, it can come in hard, unexpected ways.
What if change can be easy?
It's not always easy.
Recently I've had alot of friends and family who have experienced hardships, car accidents, illness, cancer, near death experiences, divorce, relationship changes and so much more.
When I asked them what was happening in their life before the loss or the accident, or the hardship....almost every single one of them said they were asking for change.
They were asking for something different. I know it doesn't make much sense, but when we ask for something different and we continue doing the same old thing....the universe will either gently (or not so gently) nudge us into a different possibility. However, when we ignore the nudges or warning signs, the nudge can turn into a full blown hurricane
Pain...whether emotional or physical can be devastating at the time, but with a little breath, support from people who care about us, and sometimes a whole lot of courage, pain can be a catalyst for something extraordinary.
I remember last year post divorce, I ran head into a brick wall of both personal and business challenges, I found myself on my living room floor...in fetal position, drooling, crying, pouting, and wondering how the heck was I going to get through this one....this one....well it may just BREAK me...
I knew in those moments that if I let myself just BE with the pain, the sorrow, the emotional turmoil, the ridiculous stories, the buying that I was a victim of circumstance (that I chose)...
I KNEW there was so much ease, and joy, and space on the other side...
And it still hurt...and it was still hard, and I wanted to hide and pout and feel at the effect of my emotional doldrums.
What I know about those moments that bring you to your knees....is they invite you to dig deep inside and become greater.
They are there to help you let go of story, and pain, and being a victim...and they are there to illicit a deeper sense of self, a knowing, and deep connection to the bigger picture of possibilities. They bring about confidence, appreciation, and so much more.
When life brings you to your knees...on the other side is a WHOLE NEW WORLD...
And perhaps one you've been asking for but didn't quite know how to get there.
What if change invited a better job, a new home, new beginnings, new friendships, new adventures in business, and so much more?
Would you resist it then?
If you know you are ready for more...
Here are 3 tools I learned about embracing Change no matter how scary it may seem at the time.
The tools of Access Consciousness will invite you to greater awareness and more of you. If you use them and recognize everything that happens to you and your life is there to invite you to greater and more of you. These tools are life changing! Access Consciousness provides a platform of tools and processes to help you build upon a foundation that will allow you to change anything and everything you desire to change!
Are you ready for a whole new reality?
1. What's Right About This I'm Not Getting?
When change happens and it's uncomfortable, the normal response is to ask what's wrong? Why did this happen to me? Where did I go wrong?
Instead of going into the wrongness, what if you looked at every situation as an invitation into a greater world? Think about it...have you ever had a break up and gone into a relationship that was less than the previous one? Or more than the previous one?
It usually turns out better than you can imagine.
It doesn't make the pain go away, but it can make going through it more tolerable. If you knew that everything that challenges you was a doorway into a greater way of being, would that make it easier?
So for absolutely everything that you get upset about, feel at the affect of, get cranky, or want to hide...ask what's right about this I'm not getting? What's right about me?
What's on the other side of this pain I can't yet see?
When you start to flip your perspective, there is a world of joy and energy and magic that will invite you into the greatness you've always known was possible but didn't know you could choose!
2. Stop Resisting The Change You Are Asking For
(It might not be heavy, it might be resistance)
Often times when you ask for change, it almost never shows up the way you think its going to. So it comes in a way where you have to let go of control.
This might go against the way manifestation is talked about....Don't ask for things to show up in a certain time...
Have you ever had someone give you a deadline of when they want you to have sex with them? Is it fun to abide by their timeline, or would it be more fun to play with the surprise of giving and receiving when the energy & mood is there?
Being forced into a deadline never really allows for greater possibilities to show up. It's true for you and it's true for the universe.
So notice where you are resistant to change. Where are you resistant to allowing something greater to show up? When you acknowledge the resistance...it can change.
When you start to trust you, and trust that the universe has your back, greater can ALWAYS show up. So when things get hard, when you remember that there is greater, more, and everything waiting for you on the other side....the challenges can get a lot easier.
When I let go of the need to have things be on a timeline, then everything is possible. Questions I ask when I want more change and I am in resistance:
I first ask...is this heavy or is this resistance? Is there something greater beyond the resistance?
If I say yes, will this create greater? Will this contribute to the life I've been asking for?
3. Get Back Up
A wise man said...it's not how hard you fall, it's how you get back up after you fall. No one is immune to the hardships of life. So no matter how hard you fall, get back up. Do whatever it takes, and whatever you do, don't give up on you.
You are the only person who can truly give up on you. People might reject you, say no to you, not align and agree with you...those aren't your people. If they don't believe in you, it's not your problem.
What matters is you believe in you...and don't let anyone be greater than you because you know more about you and what's inside of you than anyone else. Getting back up is about trusting your knowing and recognizing people can't see what you can see.
I've worked with thousands of people all over the world and what always amazes me is that most people think that the thing that comes easiest for them, is the thing that everyone else can do easily too.
The thing that comes the easiest for you is the thing that is your biggest gift and asset.
People won't be able to see what you see. No one can paint like Pablo Picasso, or write like Gabriel Garcia Marquez, or do business like Richard Branson, or run an empire like Oprah.
What comes easy for you is your gift. So don't let the roadblocks bring you down. They are simply inviting you to discover your inner knowing. So next time you fall, remember that greatness wasn't achieved by not failing, greatness was achieved by getting back up over and over and over again.
Thomas Edison failed over 1,000 times before he invented the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" Edison replied, "I didn't fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."
Every moment in our lives is a step toward more, and it's a step on the journey....so whatever you do, don't give up on your journey...just keep looking for people and energies that light your path every time you take a step.
6 years ago, I had a great life, a great relationship, an amazing career, incredible friends, but I still felt lost and empty. I found Access Consciousness, which is a set of tools and processes to invite you into your knowing and into greater awareness of everything in your life.
I thought my life was great before finding the tools, but I now know (thanks to the founders of Access Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer) that there is a life that is just beginning to show the magic, beauty, and gift of everything.
These tools have changed lives, saved lives, and expanded the joy not only for people, but for the planet as well.
These tools are an invitation to the change you desire to have and be..and they are tools that will invite you to truly discover and be the change you know is possible in the world.
If you would like more change....
The tools are available in many forms and the start to your journey can be in many forms via radio shows, podcasts, interviews, and free stuff from facilitators around the world.
And if you are ready for a deeper personal exploration Access Bars & Access Foundation are the stepping stones to opening doorways that will make so much sense to you!
Is now the time to know you can be the change?
What does your body know?
When I was doing my ice cream "experiment" there were some days that it really wanted it...the joy, the pleasure, the taste, and other days....it was like...mmmm...2 bites....done....
What happened for me, is that I no longer resisted the pleasure of food and realized if I eat from pleasure and choice that it would create more....
I never really gave myself permission once I turned 15 to eat from pleasure and choice...
It was always guilt, shame, fear, calculation, judgment, confusion, forcing, etc. etc.
AND this isn't about NOT dieting...this is about MAKING CHOICES that are in alignment with you....NOT cutting off your awareness.
Diets are designed to force you to follow a plan, having you think that you don't know your body...or that the diet will create more...and often times, it does temporarily create more...
the problem is when people go off the diet, the emotional symptoms were never addressed....so DO A DIET, if it's LIGHT....AND HAVE your AWARENESS while doing so!!!
What else is possible?
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What I've noticed about crazy creative people!!
Are you somebody who loves to create?
Do you get a little nervous when you look at creating? Are you curious how you could make more money doing what you love?
Do you have a bunch of Ideas and you just sit on them and don't do much about it because you're nervous to put your ideas out to the world? To invite people to pay you for something you're offering?
What I've noticed....crazy, creative people have a hard time asking people to pay for what they're offering.
Do you realize how much time you're spending judging what you're offering?
Newsflash....These are all judgments!
For every judgment you have, you cut your awareness off to:
What would it be like to go on a No Judgment Diet for business and creations journey to get out of judgment in every area of your creative life....
You do not have to buy your judgment's as real.
You have total choice!
If you know 2017 is your year to get out of your own way and begin trusting yourself and creating a body, life, and business you love...
You're invited to....
Discover the Universe of possibilities available to you and get out there in the world!
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Would you like to know how to be more effective, efficient, and productive?
It's no secret that being an entrepreneur is hard. Anyone who tells you it's easy...they're lying to you. It's not easy...but the journey...it's worth every freaking step.
I wouldn't change it for the world. Ask almost any busy professional (or mom) and they will tell you they wish they had more time in a day to get everything done they'd like to accomplish.
I know for me, I will always have more to do....so I do what I can everyday and go to bed knowing I'll have more to do tomorrow. That thought use to drive me crazy...it created alot of un-rest...until I realized...that's the nature of the game.....
And then I discovered some hidden secrets that would give me more time in my day!
Want to know what they are????
If you would like more time to accomplish, create, and conquer, I have a simple solution to help you be more productive and more effective in every area of your life!
Stop worrying about what other people think about you!!
The what-if's could be costing you hours a day in wasted time.....
Watch the video to find out how to change it now....one simple question can make HUGE difference!!
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What if you could get out of the wrongness of you and stop judging yourself, your body, and your life....
Judgment is the #1 killer of people's dreams. In order to figure out whether or not you're doing your life, or business, or body, or weight loss, or relationships right, you have to judge that there is a wrong way to do things.
What if you never had to judge you, your past, your present, your future, you finances, your business, your relationships, or your body EVER AGAIN?
Wanna know the secret to creating the life of your dreams...
Ditch the judgments.
If you are playing a loop of judgment over and over, all you can see is limitation.
Here's an example:
If I'm in judgment about the wrongness of my body...
Guess what shows up?
More and more and more judgments of how wrong my body is.
What you focus on becomes your reality. The wrongness becomes the only thing you can see and a limiting point of view.
Instead of trying to fight the judgments, I invite you to asking questions.
Questions open you up to another possibility.
Some great ones to ask are...
What if instead of judging you, your business, your money flows, your body, your relationships, your parenting....
You focused on asking questions?
Ditch the judgments and create the life of your dreams!
I adore you!
If it's time to try something different...
I invite you to join the No Judgment Party!
Is it time to get out of the yo-yo diet, body and weight trap?
Would you like to create 2017 as your best year yet?
Stop making resolutions and start using these 3 keys...
3 Keys to create your best year yet
1. Ask your body a question
When you ask your body a question, then you can begin to get comfortable with perceiving the subtle energies of your body. Your body is sending messages about its likes and dislikes all the time and they are also constantly changing. Are you willing to pay attention? When you ask your body a question, you are opening up to a conversation with your body. The body loves to be asked questions and included in creating your body. After all your body is the one that needs food, water, air, shelter, clothing, sex, etc. The more you are willing to silence the mind and listen to the body, you will develop a very different sense of self that will open up whole new doorways for the way you create your life.
2. Follow the lightness
What's true for you and your body will feel light and expansive. What's not true for you and your body will feel dense and heavy. If you've ever had a moment where you made a decision and later knew that you made a decision against the lightness? That is how you can begin to discover the ways your body is always trying to communicate with you.
3. Acknowledge you and your body
Every time you follow your body's knowing and you listen, then thank yourself and your body for being clear, being on the same page, following the lightness, choosing choices that expand your life and living. Every time you have more gratitude for the times that you follow your knowing, you will create more of that showing up.
Did you know You can get paid for BEING You?
What do you love to do so much, you would do it all day for free? What is so easy for you to do, you think it has no value? What would it take for you to do that and get paid?
I know, I know, sounds crazy, Right?! Most of us have been told all our lives how hard we have to work to earn money. How many of us function from that place? I know, I grew up thinking I had to prove through my work that I could receive money, but what if that’s a lie?
Ready for the wedgie?! What if you could get paid for BEING? What is that you love to do? Maybe it's chatting with friends, maybe it's fishing, maybe it's reading books, whatever it is, what would your life be like if you could get paid for that? So, let's play with that, whatever it is. If you were doing “that”, how much would you like to receive for it? We can take it a step further and ask what would it create in other people’s lives? How much would they be willing to pay for that? Play with the energies of that, what lights you up, is what resonates with you.
If YOU were BEING YOU, how much money would you like to receive?
What Would It Take To Out Create?
Would you like to step it up a notch? Would you like to become the wealth of your BEING, you truly BE? Ready to Create MORE?
When I find myself in a place where I'm ready to create more, I function from the question :
What would it take to create more money than I've ever made in my life? The trick to this is finding the question that resonates with YOU! Play with asking questions and find the one that LIGHTS YOU UP! You'll know you've asked a question that resonates, when your body lights up, that can be a smile or body tingles or excitement or ALL OF IT!
There is no right or wrong way of doing this. Start where you are, if asking a question of what it would take to make a million dollars today, doesn't move you, that's ok. Maybe ask what would it take for me to out create what I made yesterday or ever?
Pay attention to all the magical and miraculous ways that what you've asked for shows up. I wonder how much YOU can out create YOU today?
How much ease could it be to receive?
How much are you looking to create? What would create wealth in your life? How easy could it be to get it? Have you asked?
Step one: Ask for it!
Ok, maybe that’s not step one. First things first, you need clarity on what exactly it is you are looking to create. Whether it be money, a relationship, health, whatever it is, you gotta get clear on it. For me that meant taking out pen and paper and writing out EXACTLY what it was I would like in my life. I wrote everything, from mortgage to access classes to clothes, everything! That gave me an EXACT number to play with.
And now we can play! Are you ready? Ask over and over, everyday- What would it take to create (fill in the blank)? Some months I’d make what the exact amount I asked for or more because I had asked the universe for it and the universe delivered with ease. Now for the tip: Check your blind spots, where are you NOT asking the universe for what you require? Ask the universe to show you all the places that can contribute to what you are asking for.
Remember, ask and you shall receive. Ask away, all day, every day or when it feels light for you. Pay attention to what shows up! Have you started asking yet?
Does this still have value for me?
What will it take to create the life of your dreams?
Are you willing to show up to your dream life?
Does everything in your life have value?
I had to take an honest look at my life and ask if what I was currently doing was truly serving what I was looking to create in my life. I was overworked, broke and a new mom. I knew that continuing to walk down this road was NOT going to lead me to where I wanted, who I wanted to BE. I began to function from the question: What in my life has value to me?
I began by looking around my home and de-cluttering. If I didn’t totally love something, if it didn’t light me up, I either gave it away, donated it, sold it or threw it out. You can start in your closet, with shoes, in the garage or in your car. Look at the things you are surrounded by everyday. Here’s the tip: Ask whatever it is you are looking at 'Do you want me to keep you? Will you make me money?' Sometimes when something is going to make you money, it may not be exactly how you think. Selling it is the obvious way of course. What else is possible? I’ve played with this tool: gifting people whom have more money than me one of these items, one that has value to them.
P.S. This isn’t only about the things in your life! Take a look at the people in your life as well. I’m probably the only one that has had people in my life that aren’t a contribution right?! Ha! If your gut reaction when a person calls you is -UGH, I don’t want to talk to them or you avoid certain people because you feel so drained after interacting with them, that is your cue to clear ’em out. What if everything and everyone in your life could be a contribution to you? I wonder what that would create, don’t you?
Katherine McIntosh is a fierce creator that believes anything is possible...dreams really do come true, and if it's inside of you, you have the capacity to actualize it!!!